my lil'Chomel

Lately Jon has been behaving in a rather difficult manner for me to do anything in public. Some people will call it the Terrible Two stage. He will sit on the floor, use his hands to sweep the floor, refuse for me to take his hands, get his hands on anything that he likes (regardless how much you tell him not to)... at times I am at my wits end that I resort to spanking him in public. After awhile, he is back with his antics again. I've been searching for articles on odd behaviours for a 2 year-old and it turns out that they (the behaviour) may be normal. Well, its either that or I'm a total disaster when it comes to good parenting. ;(

Of course, I still blame myself for pampering him too much when I have the maid around. Jon was king of the house. But now without a maid to serve him hand and foot, he seems to be more independent and sometimes helpful to certain extent. I always try to see the positive light of things even though I might shout my head off when things go awry wrong. Being independent and helpful at times spells trouble to me and hubby. For example, Jon will want to help out in washing dishes. Instead, he'll delay the process of washing by playing with the dishes in the sink and gets water all over the place! All I can say to myself is that, this phase will pass. It is just part of growing up. This lead me to google (no time read books ma...) for ways to be a happy mom.

The article on "Secrets Of Happy Moms" has some good points that I can relate to. After much persuasion by hubby and the absence of a maid I relied on to keep the house spic and spank, I am in the process of trying to be a happy mom to Jon. I'm sure there will be plenty of good pointers from all the mothers I know (cos they have such good kids).

1. Just do my best...

in taking care of Jon. This is the most important thing I have to do. I put Jon even before me in anything. So, Jon must be #1 in the list In keeping the house clean by cleaning the most important parts of the house and the other parts... get weekly cleaning service for that :D.

2. Lower expectations

I can't be a super woman or bionic woman and try to do everything tip top. Eg. No hair on the floor, no dust on the table, no mosquito bite marks on Jon,
etc.

3. Stop procrastinate

Oh... I am queen procrastinator. Well, it gotta stop right here, right now.

4. Smart shopping

List out everything I need to get, get those things first and then look at other things if time permits.

5. Don't worry, be happy

Don't jump at everything single things that did not happen the way I wanted it to be.

6. Take time off

Pamper myself a bit every now and then. Stuffs I do to... pedicure, yoga, hanging out with my chi muis and friends, watch Korean movies (200 Pounds Beauty), chat with friends online/ offline and all things little girls loves to do.

Here's leaving you with my favourite video clip from the movie "200 Pounds Beauty":